I’ve been doing a lot of reflecting lately after delivering some therapeutic parenting sessions to adopters who aren’t involved in their child’s therapy at all.

While there are absolutely times when individual therapy is the right for a child, I have a strong belief that, particularly for adopted children, that some level of parental involvement is vital.

Without it, we risk unintentionally reinforcing the very belief many of these young people carry deep down: that they have to face hard things alone.

In my experience, the adoptive parents I’ve worked alongside are not resistant but are in fact, open, curious, and deeply committed. They often say they want support they just don’t always know where to find it or what support they need.

That’s why I’m such a strong advocate for DDP informed approaches because they centre the relationship, invite connection between parent and child, and recognise that healing doesn’t happen in isolation.

Therapy should never be something done to a child, but something done with them  and with the people who matter most in their lives.