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Vicki McKeown

VLM Therapy

My name is Vicki McKeown. I have 15+ years’ experience of working directly with clients; the nature of my work has evolved over time. After qualifying with an MA in Social Work I quickly realised I was unable to do the in depth therapeutic work required to resolve underlying issues, repair disrupted attachments and process early childhood trauma. This resulted in me going on to train as a Psychotherapeutic Counsellor and EMDR Practitioner. I have been in private practice since 2016 based in North Shields and working with clients across the North East. I take an integrative approach to counselling, bringing together a number of therapies and schools of thought. This enables me to work in the best and most tailored way for you, the client.

I am an accredited member of the National Counselling and Psychotherapy Society (NCPS) and also continue to be registered with Social Work England.

Counselling/ Psychotherapy
for Adults

Child and Adolescent
Therapy

EMDR (Eye Movement
De-sensitisation Reprogramming)

Dyadic Developmental
Psychotherapy (DDP)

Therapy for
Adopted Children

Supervision

1:1 Therapeutic Parenting Support

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Testimonials

“I contacted Vicki after many failed counselling sessions with other Therapists including EMDR. I just didn’t connect with the other therapists and had many years of trauma throughout my childhood and early adult years. I was coming to crisis point and my past experiences were starting to rule my life, I spent most of my time dissociating and not dealing with anything in real life.

Vicki was lovely, very open and honest and I felt I could trust her so I could open up about my past. Although opening up about my past wasn’t easy because of the dissociation, but Vicki knew exactly when I was trying to deflect answering her questions and promptly brought me back to the question.

With trust, time, compassion and understanding for the first time in years I was seeing, discussing and processing all that trauma I never thought it was possible.”

I am so deeply grateful for the help I have received from Vicki and getting me through that awful time. I am now not dissociating and feel in control of my life.

I would 100% recommend Vicki

Helen, 2019

“My 11 year old daughter sought therapeutic support in 2020, due to growing worries that were affecting her sleeping, eating, and behaviour in the home. She was gradually being overwhelmed by worries and Vicki’s work with her really helped her have an understanding as to how her brain was working and has given her a framework for understanding herself more fully. The concept of strong brain and hedgehog brain was really helpful, and the understanding of how worries come and go, then how to manage them so that they don’t stop and take over everything has really helped her. For us as parents, we have been helped with how to respond to our daughters needs sensitively and recognise the signs of switching off or vacantness being connected to stress and worries. We now feel better equipped to help our daughter moving forward into her teenage years. Vicki’s work has been foundational in helping support our daughters mental health at a pivotal time for her.”

Susan, Parent,

“Vicki has been very supportive, calm and gentle with me. She sets a comforting atmosphere and always supplies tea. She has helped me a great deal with my trauma, and I highly recommend her.”

Anonymous,

“The sessions were specific to the needs of our sons difficulties, Vicki was able to develop a positive trusting relationship.  She is supportive and honest, and during a difficult time of lockdown her support was amazing.

Our son sustained an assault leaving him confused and anxious Vicki’s helped through the difficult time.

He has transitioned between school and college, Vicki supported him to help alleviate his worries and fears, he has made great progress through the therapy sessions and he has been supported to make positive changes.”

Adoptive Parent - October 2021,

“Vicki really helped me, she listened to me when I had lots of worries, we worked together to find strategies to help cope when I get stressed and anxious.  I had lots of difficulties at school and she really supported me especially after I was attacked, she helped me realize it wasn’t my fault and I am a stronger person for all the help I’ve had.

I have started college and I have made some new friends I feel like I have a good future and I love collage.  I still have to sometimes work to manage my big feelings but I have good ways of doing this now, I don’t damage things in my room any more I go for a walk and listen to music.”

Adoptive Young Person - October 2021,

“It was my first time at counselling and I felt very apprehensive opening up to someone I didn’t know, but as soon as my first session started, Vicki made that easier for me and I felt very comfortable. Vicki helped me cope with challenging issues and assisted me with realistic coping strategies that I use almost daily. She was very supportive, calm and understanding and with all this I was able to move forward and make positive changes. Thank you Vicki for all your help and support, I would 100% recommend to anyone. 

Molly - 2022,

“I contacted Vicki in 2021 for help with overwhelming personal and professional issues. My friends are a great support network but I felt I needed an outsiders viewpoint to give an unbiased perspective on my situation and some kind of structured help to deal with it. 

I’ve never had therapy before but would absolutely recommend it and particularly Vicki to anyone struggling or feeling as stuck as I was. Vicki was calm, friendly, supportive and objective. Our sessions gave me a safe space to talk freely and practical coping techniques. I’ve been able to move forward in a positive way at last.”

H - 2022,

I met Vicki towards the end of  2019 when attending a course through Adopt North East on Attachment.  It was recommended that I look to therapy.  My daughter who was about to turn 14 had hit the skids quite badly and had awakened trauma in me that I had long ago thought I had dealt with, but I realised that in order to help her I had to also help myself.  Vicki came highly recommended through the two partners at the time of SCS Training.  I started weekly sessions with Vicki which at first I found incredibly hard going.   I was having to root around in my past, and so instead tried to focus on what was going on with my daughter at the time.  Vicki kept bringing it back to me as she realised I had to deal with my past and try and put it to bed, although deflecting things came so naturally for me.  Vicki helped me to prepare a tree of events which made me realise that not everything in my past was awful.  Vicki helped me realise that although not having a mother of my own around to grow up with at the age my daughter now was.  It made me realise that I was doing everything I could to help my daughter, and in some ways possibly it helped that I had not had her around as I effectively did not have a mother parenting tape to rely on and that it was actually making me a better mother because I would never give up on her.   For me I think it was because I did not bump into my past very often I was able to put it to one side and brush it under the carpet.  Vicki made me realise I did not have to do that any more and that the trigger of seeing my mother instead of being upset that she did not even acknowledge I existed, but be thankful that she didn’t because at the end of the day I would not have been the parent I am today.  

I would highly, highly recommend Vicki as she really listened to me whilst gently pushing me back in the direction I needed to be rather than deflecting as I had seemed to do so easily.  Although compliments I am still not great with! 

Roll forward to 2022, I am in a much better place, our family is in a much better place, and our daughter although still hits bumps in the road is in a much better place.  

I don’t like to think where we would have been if I had not met Vicki and under her guidance realised that I am not a failure and that I am doing the best I can as a mother, wife, and friend and that no one is perfect.

Annon - 2022,

“I’m very appreciative of the time Vicki spent with X and X, how she valued their thinking and promoted their insight into their own experiences.

I like Vicki’s common sense approach, that she was reliable and very considerate.”

Adoptive Mum, 2022

Adoptive Parent - 2022,

“Vicki is friendly and actually quite funny at times. She is a good listener and never puts words into your mouth like some general/school counsellors do.  She is nice to talk to and explains things clearly so that you understand why you may be feeling or behaving the way you are.  Vicki often knew why I felt the way I did before I did and she always helped me to understand why and how this could link to the trauma I had experienced in the past.  I would definitely recommend her therapy sessions as they really helped me.”

E, age 16- 2023,

“Vicki has been supporting our children at different stages on our family’s journey since my twins were 8 years old.  I can honestly say her therapy sessions have made a huge difference to the dynamics of our family and the way we parent, support, discipline and interact with each other.  We have covered everything from the impact of birth family neglect/trauma, behaviour management, self-harm and more recently our twins have explored their birth family history  while doing their life story work so they can make real informed decisions going forward. Vicki is non-judgemental, kind, caring and supportive.  Her knowledge of PTSD trauma and how it impacts and affects our children’s life and choices was excellent. Vicki not only worked with us as a family but engaged and advocated for us with other professionals working alongside us including school teachers, school counsellors and more recently college tutors.  I can’t recommend her therapy enough, it’s like having a personal therapist and cheerleader all rolled into one.”

A, Mother of Twins - 2023,

“Thank you Vicki for all your support with our child’s journey. You got him thinking about himself, his actions and his feelings and helped him through the difficult transition to high school. Your support for us as a family has been invaluable.”

Adoptive Parent, 2025,

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We are faced with multiple choices everyday!
Kids don’t just listen to what we say they watch how we say it too. 

Our tone, facial expressions, body language, and even our mood all send messages.

Every interaction is a chance to model how we want our children to communicate, regulate, and treat others.

So take a moment to pause and think: what are you modelling today?

#parenting #modelling #parenthood #leadbyexample
I often work with children experiencing anxiety. And it can be so debilitating, stopping them from doing things not because of what is happening, but because of what might happen.

It’s made me reflect on my own experience of anxiety and being a lifelong worrier.

As a child, I was generally happy doing familiar things. But anything new, unexpected, or that put me in the limelight, absolutely not. My nails were bitten right down.

One memory really sticks with me. The little me in this picture, at age 4, had to stand up in a whole-school assembly because my birthday fell in the Christmas holidays. Cue absolute panic and wetting myself in front of everyone. The shame of it was horrendous including being sent home in the communal blue cord school trousers has stayed with me for a long time.

What strikes me now is that I actively choose roles where I’m visible: delivering training, speaking on podcasts, putting myself out there professionally. That doesn’t mean I don’t still feel anxious or experience imposter syndrome, I do. But I’ve developed strategies to manage it, and crucially, it’s mostly on my terms. That sense of control matters.

Sometimes I share this part of myself with clients. Not because it’s easy, but because it helps show that anxiety isn’t fixed and it doesn’t mean it will always stop you from doing the things that matter to you.

#vlmtherapy #anxiety #growth #comfortzone
Don’t underestimate the power of safe relationships. 🌱

For those who’ve experienced trauma, safe connections are more than just comforting, they’re healing. Feeling seen, heard, and supported creates a foundation for trust, resilience, and transformation.

Healing begins in spaces where we feel safe to be vulnerable. 💛

#Adoption #Fostering #Trauma #RelationalRepair #SafeConnections
Being emotionally neglected as a child can be deeply confusing. There are no visible scars, no obvious moments to point to. You might even convince yourself your childhood was fine, you were clothed, fed, and smiled in photos.

But trauma isn’t always about what happened. Sometimes, it’s about what didn’t.

The absence of emotional connection, validation, or comfort can leave lasting wounds. And acknowledging that can feel uncomfortable especially when it challenges the story you’ve always told yourself.

It’s okay to revisit those feelings. Understanding them is the first step toward healing.

#EmotionalNeglect #UnseenTrauma #HealingJourney #ChildhoodTrauma
I wasn’t going to jump on the 2016 throwback bandwagon… but then I actually stopped to reflect on what that year meant for me.

2016 turned out to be the biggest rollercoaster year of my life to date. As always, I’ll keep most of it private, but there are two things from that year that are still very much part of my present.

I started the year by tearing my ACL on a ski holiday. (It was a real life Bridget Jones moment being tobogganed off the mountain 🤦🏼‍♀️). It still hasn’t been fixed and continues to be on my ever-growing to-do list. Many past and current clients will know that when I’ve had a slip or a knock, the knee support makes a familiar reappearance.

The second, and far more positive, memory is officially becoming self-employed and starting VLM Therapy. I can’t quite believe it will be 10 years in September. Time really does fly when you’re doing something you love (If we ignore all the admin).

I definitely wouldn’t want to do 2016 again but very glad it was a stepping stone to where I am now 😊
Instead of thinking, ‘I should have known better,’ try replacing it with, ‘I now know better.’

Self-blame keeps us stuck, while self-compassion allows us to grow. We are always learning, evolving, and gaining new insights. The goal isn’t perfection, it’s progress.

Be kind to your past self.

#SelfCompassion #GrowthMindset #HealingJourney #LearningNotBlaming #TherapeuticThinking
Earlier this month I had the pleasure of joining Colby Pearce on the Secure Start Podcast to talk about Jake and His Shame Armour and the Guidebook.

We explored why shame is such an important conversation to be having, and how I use it in my therapeutic work with clients.

It was a late recording (Australian podcast perks), so I’m genuinely impressed I was that awake and able to hold a conversation 😂

Listen here: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2459807/episodes/18550275

Watch here: https://youtu.be/ymgfk50GohI
Love is not all a child needs…especially a child who has experienced trauma.

Yes love matters but for a child who has learned the world isn’t always safe, love has to be paired with:

🔸 Consistency
🔸 Patience
🔸 Emotional safety
🔸 Understanding of trauma responses
🔸 Regulation support, not punishment
🔸 Space to feel big feelings without fear

Traumatised children don’t need “more discipline” or to just “accept they’re loved.”
They need relationships that rebuild trust, allow them to co-regulate, and teach them that they’re finally safe.

#VLMTherapy #TraumaInformed #TraumaAware #TherapyForChildren #AttachmentMatters LoveIsNotEnough TraumaParenting HealingTakesTime RelationshipBeforeRepair TherapyTips SupportNotShame
I couldn’t resist buying Sarah Dillon’s new book, Inside Big Me Lives a Little Me, when I saw it (even though I’m trying to buy less books!!!)

It’s a great little book with very few words, yet it carries a powerful message.

For many of the fostered or adopted children we support, they may now be living in a safe home with safe adults. On a cognitive level, they might know they are safe. But the wounded inner child, the part of them that experienced trauma, neglect, or hurt, still lives inside and doesn’t yet feel that safety.

This book gently illustrates how those early experiences remain present and why children need time, understanding, and support to process what they’ve been through. Only then can they begin to truly engage with and accept the love and care that’s being offered to them.

 #TherapeuticParenting #FosterCare #Adoption #TraumaInformed #InnerChild
In December it was my birthday. Yes, it’s a pants time of year to have a birthday, blame my parents 😂

Anyway, my bestie of 25 years sent me a birthday card calling me a “multi-layered human.”

She’s definitely seen all the versions of me over the years. She’s my go to when going through a crisis, unsure of something, need a shove, talked out of something… and she’s still here. She does call me “special” and I think/ hope she means it in a nice way 😂

That tells me something important: those layers aren’t just tolerated, they’re accepted by the right people!

It’s made me reflect on how we’re all multi-faceted, multi-dimensional beings.

We’re not meant to be one thing, all the time.

Our thoughts, feelings, bodies, histories and relationships all exist together.

That complexity isn’t a problem to fix.
It’s part of being human, we are and never will be perfect!

#beinghuman #multilayeredhuman
As we step into a new year, it’s natural to look back at past experiences, past failures, past hurts.

Reflection can be powerful, but remember:
you’re not meant to live there.
You’re living here.
And healing happens when we keep moving forward,
one intentional step at a time.

#looktothefuture #past #present #future #smallsteps
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